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Why ‘Deji Ayoade believes success comes
Dr. ‘Deji Ayoade (ah-yo-AH-day) is the first African immigrant to become a nuclear missile operator in the United States Air Force and serve in three U.S. military branches.
‘Deji Ayoade has held the roles of Veterinary Surgeon, Combat Medic, Nuclear Weapon System SME, Senior Program Analyst, and U.S. Space Force Department of Defense Civilian at the Pentagon.
'Deji Ayoade loves the quiet. It was not always that way. Growing up in Nigeria, his life was once filled with impoverishment and loss.
Born in 1980, in a time when his native country had made significant strides following a brutal civil war and military dictatorship, he watched as it slowly slipped back into economic hardship, wrought with corruption and religious violence.
Ayoade remembers rocking back and forth between the seemingly endless challenges his family endured. His father lost his job. His mother's business is going bankrupt. In the emotional and physical toil it took on everyone, Ayoade dreamed of a better life. One day, in the aftermath of what would be another in a series of emotionally complicated scenes playing out in his life, he promised to take his mother away from the madness.
His journey—from being a gifted student in a broken down world to the hero in one of the most inspiring stories you may have never heard of—is worth embracing. 'Deji Ayoade used to hitch rides on the back of petrol tankers to get to his exam center. He went on to become the first African immigrant nuclear missile operator in the U.S. Air Force, where he would end up serving in three U.S. military branches, including the U.S. Space Force Department of Defense Civilian at the Pentagon.
But as remarkable as the ride has been, it is only part of Ayoade's story. The spaces that strategically fit in between those duties are equal parts impressive ever since he left Nigeria on July 4, 2008 (his own Independence Day). "It has been a journey, which for the most part, has been moving from one challenge to the next until all those visions I had finally became realities. When I look back and see myself going from one phase to the next, it almost seems inconceivable. I grew up in Nigeria. I finished my primary and second level school there. I received my Doctor of Veterinary Medicine degree and practiced a few years there. And then I realized I could not go any further."
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It was in the silence, those times he could steal away, that he plotted the next steps in his journey. , he did, until he realized again that there was more. So, after getting married, he sat down with his wife, Tolu, and said he was joining the military. Enlisting in the U.S. Navy., he became a combat medic, until he was commissioned into the U.S. Air Force. After his active-duty career ended in the Air Force, he transitioned to civilian life and was offered a position by the Air Force at the Pentagon.
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In January 2021, he received a notification from his General that he had been selected for the Secretary of the Air Force recognition. Nearly a year later, in October 2022, he was selected as a "Space Force Guardian of the Year" at the Pentagon level. Every move, every rung on the ladder, was more than he ever expected.
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In his book, "UNDERGROUND: A Memoir of Hope, Faith, and the American Dream," Ayoade recounts how each step led him to places of remarkable pride and valor. "Ever since I was seven years old, I dreamed of America. I knew the sacrifices I had to make, and the faith and hope it would take to get here. And while there has been a little wind from time to time, it happened. And it has taken me to a place where I believe anything can happen. That's the one thing this country has not denied me; it has shown me that if I keep going at a hard pace and put in the hard work and commitment, dreams can come true."
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His book, which complements other poetic writings he has published, is an ode to the heartfelt moral tenets and emotional moments he has endured. Interestingly, the title, "UNDERGROUND," speaks almost poetically to Ayoade's love of the silence and quiet times he so often relies on. As a nuclear operations officer working on classified assignments some 70 feet below the earth's surface in bunkers where he did his work, Ayoade has learned to further appreciate the wisdom that silence offers.
"It takes a different kind of person to do what we do. Each of us has a talent, a gift that we can excel at. For me, it's important that my principles are true. If you are a combat medic, you have to be physically able to do that. If you're a nuclear missile operator, you have to be mentally strong enough to handle the silence and precision. But as solo as the job can be, the military is built on teamwork. We value each other and what we are each supposed to do. I strongly believe our success—each of us—depends on each other."
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Ayoade recalls one of the first encounters he had with his team in an underground bunker, where a bit of tension lingered in the air.
Gathering everyone together, he spoke of his efforts to try and understand the different personalities, dialects and cultural differences among the unit. As it turned out, each of them had the same struggles. "The key to anything is communication. You have to be able to communicate with people, be straightforward.”
If Ayoade has learned one thing in his journey, it is that the world is filled with imperfect people trying to do perfect things—an equation that while it doesn’t always add up to perfection, he believes it is worth the time spent to strive for.
“None of us are perfect. For me, it's about finding balance. I can question my actions, like we all do. I have my weaknesses and other people have theirs, so I can set any level of expectation for anyone else that I'm not able to meet up to myself.
From what I have seen and experienced, behind any bad occurrence or bad behavior, there's always a story. It is in that history that you have to figure out the present. What do you want to be in the present? I truly believe that there's something good about every single one of us. Sometimes, it just takes patience to find it.”
In a journey that has seen its share of complicated people working through even more complicated situations, his own family included, Ayoade understands that patience is a virtue well suited, yet underutilized.
“I know people have made assumptions about me, whether they were positive or negative. But you hope that if they spend enough time with you, they can find what they are looking for. I'm always going to try to find that one good thing I can focus on in someone.
Mine has been a long journey through a lot of different experiences, whether it was political or racial. I have no issues talking to people when I want to learn. If something is bothering me, I have to talk about how we learn, so that we can make the changes needed to succeed. It is about finding that balance.
In the end, I want to find the balance to be the best teammate I can. The best husband. The best father.”
"I knew the sacrifices I had to make,
and the faith and hope it would take to get here.
And while there has been a little wind from time to time, it happened.
And it has taken me to a place where I believe anything can happen."
Here is more of our conversation with Deji Ayoade in Q&A:
What typically frustrates you when taking on a challenge and how do you go about finding a remedy?
What do you want more of and/or less of in business?
What do you wish was easier when tackling challenges and why do you find it so hard?
What do you wish would occur faster in business?
What was the toughest obstacle you faced when tackling a big challenge in your career?
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Here are a series of videos where Deji takes a deep dive into his experiences and you get his first-hand feedback on real-life situations.